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eternallyforevereverythinglove asked: I'm finally sure that I'm just an introvert and not socially awkward, you don't know how relieved and happy I am! Finally got a name for how I am and also found this blog (I love the memes!) My night has been SO made (at home of course) God bless :)
Yay! Congrats! There’s something comforting about finding like minded individuals and knowing you aren’t alone.
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Anonymous asked: I'm quite introverted and my new job involves working with a big group of people who are there all the time. It's not a problem for me as I am able to do my job effectively but when I explain why it's taking time for me to get used to it, my cousin, who is very opposite of me, asked if I could change. It bothers me that she sees my introverted-ness a something to get rid of.
Try explaining to her what an introvert is and how it is actually a very common personality type and that you wouldn’t want to change it (I’m assuming here) because it’s a part of who you are. Being an introvert seems like an inconvenience, but to us it’s how we live. It’s not wrong, it’s just different.
If she can’t understand or accept that, then don’t worry about it. People are either going to understand and click with you or they wont. Ultimately if she can’t get past it, it’s her problem, not yours. You are capable of functioning perfectly well and you don’t need her validation to continue to do so.
Congrats on the new job!
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Anonymous asked: Should I just tell people I'm an introvert so they csn understand why I am so awkward?
While I would no recommend having an introduction like “Hi, my name is Bob and I am an introvert, I am also painfully awkward, please hang out with me”, I would recommend telling your friends you need alone time to recharge.
Also, being awkward is not an introvert thing. Extroverts and Introverts can be awkward, it just means you need to work on those social skills. It sucks, but you have to make an effort to go out, socialize, start to notice what works and what doesn’t, and smooth the edges off the awkward. I can’t say it will go away entirely or that it won’t be exhausting, but it will make socializing less awkward for all and eventually easier.
Harsh Truth End Note: Not very many people will care what your excuse for being awkward is unless they get to know you and you become friends. The average person on the street cares very little about your problems or why you have them.
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Anonymous asked: So, I'm an introvert, and I have a lot of friends but they never ask me to hang out. I've been told I should just ask them to hang out, but the problem is i like being alone, so I dont even know if I wanna ask them.. But I feel like I have to or I won't be considered "socially acceptable" if I never hang out with people
You should ask them to hang out with you at least a bit, and as friendship is a two way street, you might be giving off the impression you don’t like them that much, or they may be as introverted as you. I don’t know your friends.
Not hanging out with people ever is definitely outside the norm. While I am not sure about how socially acceptable it, I do know that two groups of people do it a lot; extreme introverts and unhappy people. If someone expresses concern because you never hang out with people, they are probably wondering if you are depressed and need help.
Anyway, i would do what makes you happy. Personally, I think hanging out with your friends is fun, especially if they are the ones that you don’t have to talk to the whole time you are hanging out and can have movie marathons with, but if hanging out with them at school/work is enough, stick with that.
Based on your first comment, though, it seems like you wish your friends would ask you to hang out, so I would recommend treating them like you wish they treated you and going from there. If you wish your friends would ask you hang out, ask them to hang out with you, if you with your friends would leave you alone, leave them alone.
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Anonymous asked: What do you do when you like someone but they like someone else and you're too scared to tell the person how you feel about them?
Either get up the courage to tell them and rick rejection or sit around feeling scared knowing that there is a good chance nothing will happen and they might be as scared as you.
Pick which one you feel is the lesser of the two evils.
There is no ‘snap your fingers and you are magically already in a comfortable, committed relationship’ option.
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escapingreality-welcomingfantasy asked: Please help me, my family want me to change to socialize more and we all know what we feel about socializing. I dont want to change and i cant change who i am. All my life i hid with my mask to avoid conflicts but i cant hide forever, im tired. Help
So not all socializing is bad, especially if it is with someone you like being around.
I mainly hung out with one person in in high school even though my mom encouraged me to make more friends because she was awesome and fulfilled all my social needs.
If you are not socializing at all, that would worry your parents. Humans (I am assuming you are human here) are social creatures and need social interaction to be happy. The amount varies from person to person, but for 99.99999% of people, it is more than none.
If you have a few close friends and don’t socialize much, I would try to explain to your parents that you prefer quality over quantity, treasure the friends you have, and don’t feel the need to see them every day or have any more.
Hopefully your parents will understand and if they don’t know that most parents are coming from a place of love and want the best for you, so their intentions are good. Hopefully you guys will reach an understanding, or you will be able to move out before you try and kill each other.
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Anonymous asked: I will be leaving for college in a year or so and im an introvert as well as shy. Any tips to help me out?
Um, well, it is going to be awkward and uncomfortable at time, so just accept that right off the bat.
But I would definitely make an effort whether it is to talk to the people in your dorm or join a club and smile. At first almost everyone is in the same boat, they want to make new friends and don’t know many people, and it is one of the easiest times to meet lots of people, talk to them, and figure out the ones you want to be friends with.
It will be kinda exhausting until you have your friends figured out and know them well, but the effort of putting yourself out there and getting to know people is worth it.
Also, good luck with your roommate. If your roommate is an extrovert you may have to find your own places on campus to get alone time (I recommend the library). You will do a lot of growing up for the better.
… . . I have done this.
Being a introvert is like being Robert Downey Jr. in your head
and Castiel in real life
how did you manage to sum it up so easily
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