why does tumblr always personify introversion as a tiny cute girl who drinks tea reads books and wears sweaters like i’m a 190 pound man who hangs out in the gym and in the woods doin manly shit but people still make me nervous like damn
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Under the cut in case you want to scroll past. These are some hard learned lessons from my first two years as an adult.
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Major in something useful that you enjoy and find satisfying. It may not be your passion, but if your passion is really your passion, you will still find ways to work it into your life.
Develop a useful skill that you can prove you have to potential employers. It is a good way to get your foot in the door when you are trying for your first couple of jobs. That fact that you have no experience will make you a risky investment for an employer, so it is good to be able to prove you are going to be useful to them, even if it is just doing all the drafting no one else wants to do.
I know this is not as glamorous as ‘Follow your heart and life with fall into place’ but unless you have someone supporting you so you can do what you love for free until it becomes a career, if ever, you are going to need a skill that makes you useful to someone else to support yourself.
And I meant what I said about find something fun and satisfying. A job that you hate will only bring you down. Try to find a job where at the end of the day, you can be proud of what you have done and where 75% of the time you like being at work.
It is a rough job market out there, good luck!
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Anonymous asked: Hi! I'm in college, and I might have the chance to become an RA next year. At first, I was hesitant about applying because I thought I was too shy and reserved for the job, but I may be offered a position for next year. To be an RA, I know that I will otherwise have to "act like an extrovert" in a lot of situations, but how do I still be my introverted self in spite of being in a lot of situations where I am expected to act like an extrovert?
First of all, you don’t act like and extrovert/introvert. You are an introvert if you need alone time to recharge and an extrovert if you recharge around others. If you are being quiet and shy, you are being quiet and shy.
What you are really talking about are social skills and endurance in social situations.
If you have a chance to figure this out now, do it. The ability to be social and friendly even when you are freaking tired and have been socializing for a long time is something that only becomes more important. It sucks, but it is part of being a successful adult.
So socializing and putting up with people is hard, but gets easier the more you do it. Try to keep a positive attitude, especially on long days, and smile, it makes people more cheerful. Generally be friendly.
Now, where being an introvert comes into this, know where where your limits are when it comes to dealing with people and give yourself time to recharge. Maybe you have an hour after dinner where you read a book and unwind, if you know you have a big meeting coming up, spend some time alone beforehand if you can. Also, if you know you are going to have a long day of socializing ahead of you, get enough sleep. It helps a lot.
And then come the days that are a never ending parade of people you want to deal with, learn how to stay positive and tough it out. This will happen, and it sucks, but being able to stay positive even when you are done socializing for the day is tough but important.
Also mentally accepting that you are going to be dealing with people helps me.
Long story short, use this as an opportunity to work on your social skills, build up your tolerance for people, and learn how to balance your need for alone time with your responsibilities.
There is no one way that works for everyone, but it is something we all have to learn to balance.
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Whenever there has been too much of socialising, school or whatever requires social interaction I pretty much retire, reading stuff on the internet, books, playing video games, play guitar at home until I feel like socialising again. Sometimes I get mad because of my lack of social life even though it´s me myself who wants solitude.
Do you want a social life because it looks cool or because you are actually lonely?
Figure out why you are angry that you don’t have a social life but love solitude. If you are using solitude as a way to avoid getting close to people or putting yourself out there, maybe take steps to socialize more and try building one up.
If you are mad because you don’t have something that society tells you you should have, even though you are happy without one, then learn to let it got and define happiness for yourself, don’t let others tell you what should make you happy.
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Anonymous asked: Hello, While I am able to openly talk with my elders, I have trouble with my peers, mostly 'Cause I feel like I'm being judged by them and that if I open up, they'd think it's weird considering I've been labelled as the 'quiet girl who never speaks.' There's also this guy in my class who I've been wanting to say hi to for a while. He used to give me attention but I fear that my reserved nature has pushed him away. He probably thinks I ignore him which is the exact opposite! Please help me out.
Um, I know this is easier said then done, but fuck what other people think and talk to the people you think are cool. Make an effort to talk to this guy and find out if he likes you or not.
I’m pretty reserved, and people have told me that that comes off at intimidating, but I have made an effort to be ore outgoing, especially if I think someone is cool and even though it is terrifying, it gets easier the more you do it.
You can do it!
i can only handle so much socializing until i get tired and start getting irritated towards everyone and want to go home and sleep or lock myself in my room and go on the computer
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salutationsbitches asked: Thank GOODNESS someone else realises that introverted doesn't mean the same thing as shy. So often people confuse being shy or having social anxiety with being introverted. One is a personality trait one is being drained by social interaction. Thanks for spreading the truth.
Glad to help.
I always though the biggest difference was that being an introvert means that social interaction is like a long walk, you get tired if it goes on too long, where social and anxiety were always being afraid of social interaction, and knowing there is going to be a monster on that walk.
That will mutilate you.
But you have to go on the walk anyway.
They are two separate things, as extroverts can have social anxiety and shyness, as well.
Help spread the word!
And here is a gif, because I haven’t used one in a while.
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karineileen asked: Scrolling through your blog makes me feel like less of an abomination and has me thinking that your work experiences are very similar to mine. Can I ask what your career is?
At the moment I am a show control programmer for museums and themed entertainment permanent installations (like rides). I got there from a weird route, theatre, to lighting design, to drafting, to show control. And I only graduated two years ago, so I’m not sure I have a full career yet.
But I will say that learning how to deal with people/clients/coworkers has been the hardest part of having an adult job, especially when I have to do that for long stretches without breaks.
And you are not an abomination, you are thoughtful and have an active internal life and don’t need all the external stimulation that extroverts do.
(From Introvert Cat Liz)
An introvert is a personality type and something you just are, so this should probably read “I work very hard to be social”.
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