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Anonymous asked: To the person who asked about dating an introvert: She's probably dating you because she likes dating you, not because she's looking for someone to "help her through her inward ways." Is she unhappy? Has she asked for your "help" to become more social? If not, you need to have a talk with her. If you start "helping" her without her wanting it, it likely won't work out, and could cause a lot of pain for both of you. Just a bit of advice from an introvert who's had an extrovert try to "fix" her.
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Anonymous asked: I'm an introvert with avoidance, social anxiety, and depression. I have very low self-esteem, and I am terrified of people. However, I need a job. Can anyone recommend jobs? Don't have a college education, I prefer labor-type work than details, and being outside, as well.
Mail delivery person with UPS, FedEx, or USPS?
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I just got caught up in either working shifts at theatres, wallowing in apathy, and some annoying personal troubles. But I am back, I got a new job that I start the end of April, and I am currently having a relaxing week at my parents house where I have been reading or watching TV all day and generally taking a break before I go back to my life in California.
While I was gone something happened to meme generator, which I used for the meme, so I will try and find a new site, but I think the base image may be on my other computer, so hold for that.
Also, some job tips I learned that they don’t tell you in school.
Anyway, i should be back regularly, trying to figure out the move, and generally not wallowing anymore.
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Anonymous asked: I have found that people tend to think I'm unhappy when I'm actually perfectly content, just not really expressive. I've had bosses comment and take points off of my reviews for this because they think it negatively affects customers... Does anyone know how to make themselves seem more happy? I know I shouldn't have to please others but the fact that it's affecting my work makes this situation a bit different
Work is a completely different story than your social life. Since you are being paid to perform a service. Since it is negatively affecting customers, i would try smiling more when you are at work. A good smile can brighten their day, and then feel free to be your inexpressive self when you get home.
goodmorningpet asked: Re: flashing gifs. There's an option for safe dash which covers all pictures until you hover over them. Then, only following people who use trigger warnings. That's how I do it (though I don't have epilepsy flashing gifs trigger migraines)
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Anonymous asked: Any tips for living with someone? I never got along with roommates to the point that I have retained only one of my previous roommates and we only lived together for a month. I like my solitary space in my own apartment but I am in talks to live with a friend. I am slightly envious of my friends who do live together because there's always someone there to talk to, but I'm worried about sharing a bathroom or living area. And you know, trusting someone enough to live together.
I find people that you can compromise with and who won’t have a bunch of habits that drive you crazy (how clean do you want things for example, this is something important to discuss because while someone may let a messy apartment slides for a few days, after a couple of months it is maddening). Also, make sure they know that you want alone time, and if you are in your room, then you are to be left alone. Some people get this, some people get lonely and feel like you are neglecting them. There are so many things to think about.
If you have a friend who is understanding of your needs and you guys have a relationship where you can talk about stuff if it some up instead of letting it build to silent resentment, then I would suggest giving it a go. And the more roommates you have the more complicated it gets.
I am personally excited to finally get my own place in a month after being with roommates for five years, but if you can find a person you like living with, treasure them.
And for the love for god, I thought this was common sense but when you are living with someone (who did not move in because you are dating and took the relationship to then next level) do not hook up with them or anyone they have ever dated or been interested in, like exes, crushes, and kinda-sorta fuck buddies. IT WILL END BADLY. Best friends are a scary gray area, only do it if you think it is really worth it.
And try to find someone you feel like you can talk to about anything that they may be doing to piss you off, because you are stuck with them, no real breaks, and silent resentment is awful for you and anyone living with you.
But I would wait until you have a friend who understands your needs and wants to live with you before getting a roommate if you have the means to be on your own. If you get lonely you can always go out and hang out with friends.
Anonymous asked: Yeah, but I like your "wrong" posts :)
But I try to keep those to my personal blog http://betterthanapunchtotheface.tumblr.com/.
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Anonymous asked: Hi group. Trying to understand introversion. I am dating someone who is introverted and I am an extrovert, talk to anyone and freely engage people. I notice her fear on even talking on phone to service people. ( I handed her the phone to talk to Att guy about Her phone) She started sweating and was upset with me that I did that to her. Is she seeking out my outward ways to help her through her inward ways. Will this work in the long run, or is a a long road?
She may have some social anxiety if she if she reacts that strongly with, and you can only help her if she wants to be helped. And unless she has talked to you about wanting to overcome her fear of socializing with strangers, pushing her to be more social will push her away.
I am not sure if this with work based on you being an extrovert and her being an introvert alone. All relationships have a lot of factors that determine whether they work or not. I would be sure to listen to what she tells you, and understand that her idea of a good night would be hanging out with a small group of close friends or a night in, while you’ll probably want bigger social outings. With all relationships the two of you will have to talk, understand what the other person is feeling, and find ways to compromise, make it work, and sometimes out your needs completely aside if you want to make the other person feel special or they are in a bad place.
I don’t know any magic formula that can tell if a relationship will work or not, but I wish you the best of luck and hope that if you guys really like each other you will both find ways to stay together.
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Anonymous asked: Introvertcat, I get the feeling that you may have reblogged some things to the wrong tumblr. Just letting you know! :)
I know, I am getting used to an iPhone, but I was too lazy to change it.
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