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15th June 2014

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Anonymous said: being an introvert, I am not someone who takes many risks. but I want to travel and visit this guy I've been talking to for 6 months. the thing is, my family would freak out if they found out the truth. I want to lie to them but I don't have the guts to..... this is a huge dilemma for me :/ do you have any advice?

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But, not matter what age you are, always tell your friends/family where you are going and have them get an alert out for you if you don’t check in a certain amount of time. Don’t lie to your family, don’t put them through that worry. Unless they are legitimately abusive and you have to get away for safety concerns, do not just run away without telling them where you are going. That is cruel.

Regardless of age, it is a risky thing to do to visit a stranger somewhere else that you have never met. Make sure you have money for a place to stay and a way home if it turns out wrong.Give a friend or family member the contact info of the person you are meeting. Whenever you travel to meet someone you don;t know well, have a plan B.

If you are an adult I’ll leave it up to you to decide how well you know this person (at least video Skye them so you know they weren’t lying about their age) and make sure you have had some voice or visual contact, not just texts.

If you are underage, don’t run across the country to meet a stranger without your parents permission. Running away is illegal in nine states, will worry your family sick, and will likely get you and your parents in front of a court and could get you put in foster care. It’s a serious thing to do and should not be done lightly. 

15th June 2014

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15th June 2014

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broken-horn-of-equius said: Im a very proud introvert, INTJ actually, and find myself wanting to find others as proud as I am. Could you perhaps post some links for places online where introverts of all shapes, sizes, and colors can commune and network?

Hello fellow INTJ.

I haven’t heard of an introvert and proud community. I started this blog because I couldn’t find a place where I could vent about introvert things.

Feel free to create such a place and if you do I’ll share the link here.

P.S. Sorry for being silent for so long, work has gotten crazy for both of us mods.

9th June 2014

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Is my teacher right?

At the end of the year in my English class, we were assigned a project in which we had to research a topic and prepare a presentation to the class. My teacher knows that I struggle with presentations. I get really anxious when I try to mentally prepare to speak, my breathing speeds up, and I feel very lightheaded. With enough time, I can prepare myself well enough to do presentations. For this one though, I just couldn’t do it. I tried to quietly tell her at the beginning of class, but she started yelling at me in front of the whole class. She was implying that I was weak, and that I needed to just get over it and do the presentation. She said I was being ridiculous. It’s not really a phobia because I really am able to do presentations. I just have a hard time in that class because everyone is an extrovert, half of them don’t even know my name. I was just wondering if I really am a weak person.

IC: Okay first of all,any teacher telling a student they are weak is fucked up. I don’t care if they think that, obviously you’re struggling, obviously you’re afraid, insults do not heal anything, especially not anxiety. 

So no. Your teacher is not right. You are not weak. You just aren’t as strong as others in this area and that’s okay. It’s impossible to be good at everything. I bet one of your strengths is one of her weaknesses, so to imply that you are a weak person because you can’t do something she can is narrow minded and bad teaching. 

That being said, as much as I know public speaking sucks and is awful and even though I do it all the freaking time I STILL SHAKE even if I know what I’m talking about and am confident, it is almost essential to learn this skill. 

I know that sounds shitty as all hell, trust me I know. But you don’t have to be good at it over night. It takes practice, it takes confidence, and sometimes you just gotta bullshit it. It’s okay, more often then not if you’re speaking in front of a group of people, they will be on your side and they will want to hear what you have to say. Worst case they aren’t even listening and don’t give a fuck anyway so who cares. 

Easier said than done? I know. Those damn shaky hands! And I’m not saying you are destined for a job in speech giving or lecturing, but eventually you’ll be working with a group of people in which you will be the expert in something and you will need to speak up and say your piece and you’ll need to be able to do it with confidence and ease. 

Again, this isn’t an instantly figured out thing. It’s hard, it’s scary, you’ll probably want to cry a lot. That’s okay. You. Are. Not. Weak. You are learning and you will get better and fuck what that lady said because she has no business teaching with an attitude like that (I’m sorry I keep coming back to this but I’m mad about it). 

Keep trying hun, don’t let the haters get you down. <3

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11th May 2014

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Sometimes you just have to recharge.image

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It’s not that I don’t want to be with friends and chill. I love doing that! But sometimes I just need to have some alone time too!

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8th May 2014

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Introverts don’t get lonely if they don’t socialize with a lot of people, but we do get lonely if we don’t have intimate interactions on a regular basis.
— Sophia Dembling, The Introvert’s Way: Living a Quiet Life in a Noisy World (Perigee Trade, 2012)

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6th May 2014

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I could totally relate to someone who wrote “introverts don’t get lonely from not hanging out with a lot of people, but they get lonely from not having intimate interactions from time to time”, something like that. I could totally relate to that. Like, in the meantime when you just talk about shit and you’re “on autopilot”, socially, that doesnt mean anything to me. Talking about shit, aaaaaalll the time. I think thats why I spend so much time on Tumblr, I have inner intimate relationships with my tumblr feed kind of…

Love your page. Makes me feel less weird in this extroverted world. 

IC: Thanks! We totally feel you. Sometimes being in a crowded room makes you feel isolated and its really hard to reach out to people sometimes. And even if you can make small talk with someone, that conversation can be so much more draining than a deep conversation with your best friend. 

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6th May 2014

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I hate it when you actually have a full day off with absolutely no responsibilities and then suddenly someone asks you to do something and you’re just like…oh. 

6th May 2014

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Anonymous said: I'm not socialy awkward or have anxiety, I might be a bit shy but I think I have some social skills despite not being very good at small talk. Thing is though, I don't make friends as easily as other people seem to for some reason and I try to be quite social. Like so I don't have many friends like most people do but I have just about enough I think. Now I'm wondering, is this something introverts might struggle with or so? Since I'm an introvert as well.

One of the traits of an introvert is that they prefer the company of a few close friends over a large group of acquaintances.

This isn’t bad either. Trust me, once you get out of school, having that close unit of friends will be more beneficial to you than a large group of people you may or may not be in of touch with.  

I say beneficial to *you* because I mean *you* as an introvert. I have a good friend who is an extrovert and stays in touch with what seems like hundreds of people she’s met through the years and at any given moment she can message one a question or ask for help or something and they’ll help her. That works for her, and that’s awesome. 

Now as awesome as that is for her, I could not stand that. I need to focus on the people that I consider important. They are my main group that I can go to if I need anything and I know absolutely that they will help me. And in return, I know that these limited amount of people will require help from me. Extroverts have what seems like an unlimited amount of energy for social situations, while introverts have an extremely limited amount. So while extroverts can give out the social energy to anyone and everyone no matter what they get back, introverts prefer to spend that social energy on people we know we’ll have a positive experience with and would rather not “waste it” on people who will drain us. That’s why alone time is important to us, so we can regain that energy so we can continue to socialize. 

So don’t feel bad about it, you don’t even have to struggle with it. Just know your limits and try to work around them. Sometimes it doesn’t always work out and you have to overextend yourself and you’ll feel exhausted and this can seem inconvenient, but it’s just how your body/brain works. Just like your body needs water and food and sleep it also needs its brain time to recharge. Listen to your body! It knows what it needs. 

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