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catsandviolins said: It's summer and many of my high school friends are back home. I love them all dearly and want to spend time with them, but with so many of them I feel cramped because they all want to hang *now*. I still will hang out with them because I like seeing them happy. I also miss them, but would rather space out my time a bit more. I just needed to get this out somewhere.
What I do, since when I have friends who want to hang out now, it throws me off since wasn’t planning on it, is try something along the lines of “I am not available now, but what about next Tuesday?” and I make plans in the future to see them. Sometimes they get annoyed, but people can’t always expect you to drop whatever you are doing to see them. Just try to make plans to see you friends and space them enough apart so you are okay. Just make sure not to plan something then flake out, and maybe in future your friends will start asking you in advance when you are free.
I am not sure if it is the same for you, but for me, if I know ahead of time I am going to hang out with people, rather than having it sprung on me, it stresses me out less.
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catsandviolins said: I have a friend with whom I've maintained a friendship since middle school. Now we're in college. We barely text during the school year and only see each other 2-3 times a year now, but when we see each other it's like we never missed a day. We're both introverts. It makes me glad that she knows that me not calling her doesn't mean I don't want to be friends, and vice versa. I feel as if we'll maintain a friendship regardless of how far we are from each other. Idk why I'm telling you this. Meh.
Who says that all friends have to constantly talk to each other all the time. I have a friend like that and we still love spending time together after little chat and months apart.