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Friendly reminder that just because you’re an introvert doesn’t mean you get a free pass at
-not learning how to communicate with others (including strangers)
-not learning how to get along with people who feel or think differently than you
-having to work in a public space or with lots of people
-not helping people around you
-being an asshole in general
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I could totally relate to someone who wrote “introverts don’t get lonely from not hanging out with a lot of people, but they get lonely from not having intimate interactions from time to time”, something like that. I could totally relate to that. Like, in the meantime when you just talk about shit and you’re “on autopilot”, socially, that doesnt mean anything to me. Talking about shit, aaaaaalll the time. I think thats why I spend so much time on Tumblr, I have inner intimate relationships with my tumblr feed kind of…
Love your page. Makes me feel less weird in this extroverted world.
IC: Thanks! We totally feel you. Sometimes being in a crowded room makes you feel isolated and its really hard to reach out to people sometimes. And even if you can make small talk with someone, that conversation can be so much more draining than a deep conversation with your best friend.
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Anonymous said: I'm not socialy awkward or have anxiety, I might be a bit shy but I think I have some social skills despite not being very good at small talk. Thing is though, I don't make friends as easily as other people seem to for some reason and I try to be quite social. Like so I don't have many friends like most people do but I have just about enough I think. Now I'm wondering, is this something introverts might struggle with or so? Since I'm an introvert as well.
One of the traits of an introvert is that they prefer the company of a few close friends over a large group of acquaintances.
This isn’t bad either. Trust me, once you get out of school, having that close unit of friends will be more beneficial to you than a large group of people you may or may not be in of touch with.
I say beneficial to *you* because I mean *you* as an introvert. I have a good friend who is an extrovert and stays in touch with what seems like hundreds of people she’s met through the years and at any given moment she can message one a question or ask for help or something and they’ll help her. That works for her, and that’s awesome.
Now as awesome as that is for her, I could not stand that. I need to focus on the people that I consider important. They are my main group that I can go to if I need anything and I know absolutely that they will help me. And in return, I know that these limited amount of people will require help from me. Extroverts have what seems like an unlimited amount of energy for social situations, while introverts have an extremely limited amount. So while extroverts can give out the social energy to anyone and everyone no matter what they get back, introverts prefer to spend that social energy on people we know we’ll have a positive experience with and would rather not “waste it” on people who will drain us. That’s why alone time is important to us, so we can regain that energy so we can continue to socialize.
So don’t feel bad about it, you don’t even have to struggle with it. Just know your limits and try to work around them. Sometimes it doesn’t always work out and you have to overextend yourself and you’ll feel exhausted and this can seem inconvenient, but it’s just how your body/brain works. Just like your body needs water and food and sleep it also needs its brain time to recharge. Listen to your body! It knows what it needs.
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