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oceanbreeze20 asked: Hello! Please help me, if you can. I am introvert and haven't friends, but fall in love with famous musician. This guy live in Minnesota state and I live in Russia and don't know what I should do(
I want date with him, because I haven't boyfriend and he is introvert too. Please, give me an answer...
First of all, I hate to bring a reality check, but you are probably never going to meet this musician. And it is safe to want him because it is probably never going to happen.
I would try and make some friends closer to where you live. It isn’t going to be easy, but joining a club, or a religious organization, or a volunteer group (I’m not familiar with what social things you have in Russia, but if there is a place you can hang out and meet other people in a low pressure environment I would try and do that). Hopefully you will find some people you get along with and even maybe someone you like as much as this musician.
And good luck trying new things. I know meeting new people it really uncomfortable, but when you make friends its worth it.
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What would you advise for dating an introvert guy? I’ve been seeing an introvert guy whom I have a crush on, but I have no idea on how to get him to open up, and it’s extra difficult since I’m an introvert myself. I try to give him subtle signals that I like him but he doesn’t seem to pick them up, or he is too shy to notice and act on them. I’m honestly too scared to make the first move, I still don’t know if he fancies me or he is just being polite when we go out. It’s so hard for the both of us to make a move.
Well the truth is that, as far as I know, no one is telepathic. So you can’t just sit around and expect anyone to just pick up on what you are thinking, especially if you guys aren’t really close. I would recommend either getting up the courage to say something like “Would you like to go on a date with me?” or telling him you like him if you want something to happen.
I don’t have a magical solution to this because eventually, for this relationship to happen, one of you will have to let the other person know how you feel and risk rejection.
And subtle signs usually don’t work. My dad still laments at how long it took my mom to got out with him, and the reason it took so long for her to get the message was because he was being shy and subtle. Eventually he had to come out and ask if she wanted to have dinner, alone, with just him, And my dad is one of those introverts who would happily live a hermit’s existence with just my mom, and puts up with people because my mom needs a social life.
The point of the story if that I you want something to happen, you have to take a leap. And there is no easy way to do it. If both of you are waiting for the other person to do something, then chances are neither of you will ever move.
So make a move if you want something to happen and stay put if you would rather have nothing happen then take the risk. Dating isn’t easy for introverts or extroverts. Good luck!
a little story.
How did I not see this in my inbox. I have been a terrible blog runner.
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I was recently working on site for a project. It was alright, until the owner, and the exhibit content designer, and everyone else from other companies who are working on the project start demanding that I help them.
Like every five minutes.
I could not get what needed to get done done, and they then got to complaining that they could not finish their work, because things weren’t done yet. Things that I had not had time to finish because they had told me to drop everything and help them.
Luckily my project manager was nice and helped be a buffer to make sure I could actually complete tasks. As an intern I have little authority.
The worst part was me trying to escape to go to lunch. I had half and hour before I had to be back to meet the owner, and I needed a break from the other people. Before I punched them in the face. so I said I was going to pop out for lunch. They gave me a bitch face and asked if I could work through lunch because they needed to get their content up in time and the network wasn’t up.
So I kicked them off the computers without another word, adjusted the settings so the network would work, and then ran away and told my project manager that I was escaping for lunch and that I needed a sanity break. I had not had a break for the past four hours.
Some days I feel like I’m okay at being professional and having social skills, but some days when I can’t get a break it is hard to stop my inner bitch from coming out.
But as my project manager said when I asked her how she did this all the time, you have to realize that everyone is stressed, they all have their deadlines to meet, and being rude is quick way to make someone’s day go from okay to awful.
After three days of that, a four day weekend was greatly appreciated.
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